Change is the only constant. Things change. We change. We have a choice to accept it or resist it. At each stage, you need to outgrow the aspects that helped you grow to that point, consciously and gracefully. Growth is the only constant. The larvae need to leave its cocoon at one point irrespective of what it wishes. It has a choice to rue the fate of affairs and of not having a choice. It might prefer to retain the present state of comfort and familiarity. Or it can accept and embrace the phenomenon turning into a beautiful butterfly; of moving into a phase of movement and flight. And turn into a butterfly it will have to irrespective of what the preference is. It’s again how it is and it’s a function of alignment to the laws of life.
We go through similar phases several times in our lives. “Things used to be so much better and beautiful in the past”, “College days were the best days of my lives” “Our friendships are not the same from the time we used to be kids” “Wish things were the way it used to be” — People change, you change, everything changes! We do not have control of a lot of things that happens in our life. But we do have a choice about how those events can make us feel and how we respond to them. That is totally within our control. Swimming with the tide is a beautiful and effortless experience but what about swimming against the tide?
Your purpose and alignment is to growth; that’s also the way it is. You will need to outgrow your parents, your friends and even yourself for you to truly embrace the possibilities of moving into your next stage of growth. Like a hand of cards that has been dealt to you, you will need to figure out when to play them or fold them. And that’s what you need to get good at. Folding a hand is an equally powerful expertise in your game. Leaving an unplayable ball is a really important skill to have in cricket. Is it time to retire or what’s required is to be tenacious to see this tough phase through? Sometime, you will need to fold, you will need to leave and you will need to retire. There will be times when those are your only moves and it may even be the last move you get to make. Even at that stage, you have the power and the choice to do it consciously and graciously.
Your purpose and alignment is to growth. And to stay true to that alignment, you will need to let go from time to time, you will need to move on; consciously and gracefully.
Let go or be dragged!